Since none of my ideas worked,
and since they may be others stuck in the same place,
especially when you song folders are on another networked computer,
here's the work around I came up with:
First, in iTunes, I changed the BPM (beats per minute) in my songs to refect my rating since that does not come across. Worked fine. When songs were imported to MM I just grouped them by BPM, then rated them enmass. Of course this means that you can't be using the BPM in iTunes, but really, none of the songs I imported had that info anyway.
Second, I used the "Grouping" field in iTunes to similarly group my playlists. The thing to do here is to make a string of letters that won't appear in any other field. So for instance, I have a playlist called "Channel 15", so I clicked on the playlist in iTunes, selected all, then edited the songs so the grouping for all of them read, "ppp15". Later when I imported songs (rescanned the folder) I just searched for that string in MM and turned that list into a playlist.
Kinda the long way around, but in retrospect, it took a couple hours, while previously I had invested many hours tring to get other methods to work.
Hope someone may find this helpful.
Media Monkey: Lifetime Gold, Ver. 126.96.36.1994 on each. 85386 songs / apr 46,000 unique
Networking: Simple workgroup, hard wired, 10/100 router and NIC cards.
1. Storage Computer: eMachine T6212, Athlon 64 2.0 Ghz, 1.5GB RAM, HD1=0.5TB, HD2=1.0TB, Windows XP Home 2002 SP3
2. Office Computer: Dell Dimension 3000, Pentium4 2.8 Ghz, 768MB RAM, HD1=80GB, HD2=250GB, Windows XP Home 2002 SP3
3. Garage Computer: Gateway GP7, Pentium3 730 Mhz, 382MB RAM, HD1=40GB?, Windows 2000 SP4.
90% OF ALL MUSIC LISTENING DONE ON GARAGE COMPUTER USING PARTY MODE.
90% OF RIPPING, EDITING, AND PLAYLIST WORK DONE ON OFFICE COMPUTER.